“As women, we put so much pressure on ourselves to make it seem like everything’s ok all the time.”
After five miscarriages, the feeling of isolation for Alicia Garcia-Green was palpable. “My husband and I stopped talking about it, stopped trying. We couldn’t face another heartbreak. Then shortly after my 11th wedding anniversary I discovered I was pregnant, again. I felt like a ticking time bomb. Sorrow and dread poured over me. But then something amazing happened – he stayed.”
Cautiously optimistic, Alicia continued her journey through motherhood with the support of her husband, family, and friends. “I remember posting about it on social media,” Alicia recalls. “It felt shameful to talk about our situation and no one else was talking about similar experiences, but I was silently suffering, hoping for the best, and needed support.”
With an outpouring of love and support from a newly found community of others who stepped forward to share their stories, Alicia realized she didn’t have to feel alone.
With the birth of her son, Elliot, Alicia began to heal by sharing her story and truly enjoying every moment. “He’s the brightest spot in my life. I can’t help but believe that although difficult, my journey was for him.”
“Before Elliot I thought being a parent was easy. Now I know it’s the most taxing, most rewarding thing I’ll ever do!” Alicia notes. “I can’t believe people have been walking around this whole time loving their children so much, like they were going to burst with love for their child. Why don’t they tell you that?! I love it.”
Her advice to other women going through similar situations? “We’re all trying to put on a good face to balance work, doctors’ appointments and our fear that others will think we’re less capable. The truth is, when you open up you have more support than you realize.”
To Alicia, her family, and to all of those who work tirelessly to raise healthy families of all kinds, #WeSeeYouMom.
VSP recognizes that moms are often the chief medical officers of their households, on call 24/7, and the first line of defense when it comes to their family’s overall health, including eye health. This post is a part of our #WeSeeYouMom profile series designed to celebrate those that work tirelessly to raise strong and healthy families.